[faith106]

I visited this forum years ago and was hoping you guys could offer advice. I'm 42 and really enjoy sex. I've started dating a very sexy older man that I've known all my life. He is 15 years older than me. We both have kids close to the same age and are in the same season in life in that way. He had injured himself right before we started dating. He broke his hip and says he pulled a groin muscle. It's been 4 months and he's still recovering from that. We have enjoyed a lot of foreplay. 5 hrs at a time and it's been incredible for me. He can make me cum with his hand and feel better than any man ever has with sex. He's amazing 20 orgasms in 3 hours amazing. I get totally naked when we are together and straddle him and rub all over him. He has only taken his shirt off. I've asked him to take off his pants but he says he can't due to the pulled groin muscle. I've offered oral sex for him but he says he can't. I'm beginning to think he may have erectile dysfunction. He's also a diabetic. I'm very satisfied with our sex life, but I worry he may not be and that satisfying me might make him feel inadequate or uncomfortable. He says he loves playing with me and making me cum. I've never met a man I couldn't make hard and beg for more. I'm a very attractive woman. I'm 5.2 125 pounds. My best feature other than my outgoing happy personality is my very perky 34 C boobs. My guy and I have such an amazing chemistry. When we kiss the world stops. When he touches me I explode w pleasure like I've never known. I just wish I knew how to ask him if it's really a pulled muscle or ED. If it's ED will he always enjoy making me cum like he does now? Do men really enjoy playing with a woman and watching her explode with pleasure even if they can't enjoy getting hard and exploding with pleasure too? So many ??? Any advice?

[JoinUs]

Be honest and discuss this issue with him. A relationship is between the people involved, if you ever want it to fail stop communicating and it will end. If you want to resolve issues you need to discuss them with each other anything else is being false to yourselves.

[smithdiver]

Faith I’m really surprised there are no replies to your question. Of course no one can really know the answer to your question for sure with this amount of known details, but I do totally understand your concerns.
Your suspicions of ED may be true, but there is the possibility he has something else going on. My wife, before she was my wife, got herpes from her former husband, she doesn’t want to share that problem with me so actual intercourse is something we rarely have, but as you are doing, there are ways around that. If you and he are willing to accept the “work around”, then sex can be equally as satisfying and even more exciting. The main objective would be to be completely accepting of whatever it is causing him to react this way. I think one of the main points to be aware of is that if he actually doesn’t have a pulled groin, he is possibly concealing something else, and for that he is fearful you won’t accept it and fears he might lose you if he tells you the truth. No doubt there is an elements of guilt as well. I’d suggest being patient, let him know if no uncertain terms that no matter what it is, it will be fine. Truly love is the ultimate goal, sex is not.

[DangerousDi]

Sdriver; Remember dating never change,s it is always the same rules: teen to old age. While being honest, don't tell everything on your own. It is something women think they must do and remember you have to leave a little mystery. Be sure to play the game. Don't always be available. Mystery again. First 3 months it is wild, then you have to get creative. If you are soul mates, it will process on it's own.

Also something to think about. My SIL married a man 20 years older. Now he is ill with COPD and it is very hard on their marriage, because she is still active. Think about that as you age difference down the road. Not trying to discourage you at all, as love is love, but remember you will always be younger than him.

[Thinker]

I am about his age and finally free of a long term sexless marriage. Speaking for myself, I could not get hard the first time I was going to have sex. I did get hard while she was giving me a BJ but then got soft. She got very disappointed that I got soft since she thought it was "her." I told her it wasn't "her." I knew that because I would get soft while masturbating at the end of marriage. I believe it was due to the "use it or lose it" philosophy.

I went to my doctor and got a sample of an ED drug. It worked! Used the samples a couple of times with success. Then I tried sex without the drug and I remained hard throughout. My current gf is enjoying my rediscovered hardness. However I have another "problem" according to her. In my youth (pre-marriage), I would cum quickly during sex. Lasting 15 minutes was a long time.

Now sometimes I don't cum at all. Even though I remain hard for an hour giving her many orgasm, yet she gets upset that she is not giving me "pleasure" because I don't have an orgasm. It does not bother me. I do cum but not always. I really enjoy watching her face during her orgasms.

Maybe this will change too. I might begin cumming quickly...or not. It may be the ways of growing older. I don't know. This is an unanswered question. However, I do know this. I personally always enjoy giving a woman pleasure. Making her cum orally gives me pleasure. Touching her and caressing her are enjoyable. I don't have to cum to be pleasured!

[DangerousDi]

There is an ad out for taking male enchancement products that they are finding they now cause strokes and heart attaches. So be careful using that stuff guys. They are suing the company and it is the first famous one. If it has happened to you, contact them and they will fight for you. Anyway....I can't remember the ad on TV, nor do I have the site or tele number.

[Thinker]

The product I used caused several strokes. So many that I told my gf to stop stroking and start sucking!

[ICU]

Thinker...Good one! LMAO. I Ike this guy. He's a hoot!

[mandadees]

Thinker you made me laugh so hard I spilled my tea! But you may just be humming around the answer, if she applies a little more suction with her technique she might get the pressure inside higher (harder) and get you to your happy place?

Bring her over to a Club COFF party and well gets some of the girls together and show her how .


:lol: :lol:

[WickedWonder]

faith, I am around his age. A broken hip and groin muscle takes a long time to heal up. I pulled one and it was nearly a year before I could achieve a erection. I discussed it with my doctor and he told me it was a nerve shock that basically desensitizes the whole area. Eventually I did recover but that first erection was more than painful.

Like others said, maybe another issue is involved and you need to talk it out.

Now as far as pleasuring a woman. I love to watch my wife with her pleasure. Nothing like listening to her noises she makes, seeing that look on her face and feeling her tenderness. There is just something about the smoothness and tenderness of a woman that excites me. At night, I usually snuggle up tight to her back side and feel her bottom resting on my belly, the warmth, smooth soft skin of hers is such a relaxer. Oh and I always cuddle her breasts with my hands. She loves it and so do I! Another thing I love to do is just cup my hand over her crotch and just feel the warmth and tenderness. Why? I don't know. I love to give and watch her pleasures over mine.

[Thinker]

Manda, where is the next Club COFF Party? Sounds like a fun time!

[faith106]

Thank you all for your advice. My older boyfriend and I had a wonderful 24 hr in bed adventure after my post. He didn't remove his underwear the whole time. He gave me more orgasms than I could count. I was so very sore for days but oh it was so worth it. He went to shower before he left. I offered to start his shower for him. He asked me to join him so I did and immediately began to kiss him kiss down his chest and stomach and give him the most incredible blow job of his life. He didn't get fully hard, but that was ok it enabled me to deep throat him the whole time. I was determined he would enjoy himself and cum. He did cum and I swallowed every drop. He greatly enjoyed himself. He was very quiet afterwards but we had to rush out the door. We haven't had the chance to be together like that again. I really hope we do soon. So he can cum but can't maintain an erection for sex. I need to ask him if it's ED but I haven't been able to yet. I love him and he satisfies me but I would miss that it's hard to imagine never having a man inside me again if he and I work out.

[faith106]

Thank you all for your advice. My bf and I can discuss anything, but I know if I bring this up it will be a sensitive issue. I was hoping he would offer the information. He and I had a wonderful 24 hr in bed experience after I posted this. I was naked the whole time. He gave me more orgasms than I could count. The things that man can do with his fingers anal and pussy are Heavenly. I talked to him some about wishing I could make him feel as good as he makes me feel. He said he loves watching me cum over and over and feeling how tight and wet I get for him. He kept his underwear on the whole time. Right before he left he went to shower I offered to start his shower. He came in there and started kissing me and asked me to join him. I had told him one of my fantasies was to give him a blow job in the shower. As soon as I joined him I kissed him and kissed down his chest and stomach and gave him the greatest blow job of his life. He wasn't fully hard but that made it easier to fit all of him in my mouth and deep throat him. I wasn't sure if he could cum. I stopped at one point and kissed him asking if he wanted more and if he thought I could make him cum. He knodded as I got back on my knees to finish the job for him. He put both hands on each side of my head to hold me there and came in my mouth down my throat. I swallowed every drop for him. He was very quiet afterwards which is not his personality. We had to rush and we haven't discussed that day much or been able to be together since then. We both have young children and live 2 hrs apart. So he can cum. I would miss having a man inside me, but we can pleasure each other and that's most important.